I’ve learned that timing is often dependent on how intently I’m listening.
Likely you have heard the saying, Timing is Everything. I remember once, many years ago, when my oldest grandson, Michael, and his uncle, Jon (my next oldest son) were traveling in our car with us. Where we headed and why, I cannot recall. However, my grandson had been getting in trouble with his step-dad for taking issues of importance too lightly in an attempt to be funny. As good uncles do, Jon made the statement “One thing I’ve learned, Michael, and that is that timing is everything.” Which indeed it is.
However, in a recent conversation between my oldest son, Jim, and me, he bumped that statement up a notch when he said, “I’ve learned that timing is often dependent on how intently I’m listening.”
Really adds a whole other element to listening and timing. Sometimes we listen without really hearing what is going on between ourselves and another person. Adding another element to listening and hearing, contemplate this: Don’t listen to what a person says, Â listen rather to why they are saying it.
When we do that, we separate out what is about us, and what is about the other person. We each talk in code, repeating what we’ve been taught is correct, or true, or right.
When I challenge myself to understand the other person, where they are coming from, what their values are, and why they say what they do, I can better listen to why they say it.
Often, that why has little to do with me, and so much more to do with them.
Listening is important. Timing is important. Why we say and what we do is important. Why the other person says what they do is equally important. Therewith comes understanding.
Why timing is everything, so is listening