Defeat is not the same thing as not doing something correctly. Defeat occurs when, in the midst of a difficult task, we give up, not on the situation, but on ourselves. We quit trying.
The opposite of defeat is success. We succeed when we win the battle over ourselves.Â When we persist in the pursuit of our dreams, no matter the obstacles, we are winners in life, for we have won over our weaknesses.
Or until we learn to not say no.
A woman with a novel in first draft once said to me, “I’m afraid to keep going with this, trying to get published, because I fear I will fail.”
My reply? “We only fail when we stop trying to accomplish our goal. You won’t fail if you don’t let yourself. When discouragement comes, Â you pick yourself up and keep working at it until you carry out your goal. That’s the only way any of us will ever be successful.”
I didn’t always follow that advice. For many years, I was a quitter. There are many projects I would start, get discourage, and stop. Only many years later would I learn the secret of success–don’t stop!
How about you? What works for you that helps you carry out you goals?Â How do you handle rejection or the fear of defeat?